Friday, November 21, 2008

we now interrupt your facebook time to bring you this important message.

i have got to get my obsession with facebook under control. is there a facebook anonymous yet? because i seem to be completely compelled to find every single person from my past and present. i look at their pictures, their families, their lives-- and i'm just addicted to knowing how they are.

i love that there are people who at one time or another were very, very dear to me......and that time and distance and perhaps a minor squabble or two drew us apart over the years. but my friend facebook has put us back together again, and i love that.

i love that the first boy who really and truly broke my heart, and who i swore (as well he did, i'm sure) that we'd never lay eyes on each other again........i love that he is my facebook friend. i love that he gets to see that i turned out way better than he anticipated i would, which is probably why he dumped me to date one of my best friends in college. i love that i get to create closure never possible in the 90s, because as a rejected reject back in the day-- i had a million things to say to him that were never said. and now, i don't need to. score one for me.

i love that there are people from high school and even junior high who were absolutely the coolest people in the(ir) world, and that they have had their shares of struggles and strife and --gasp!!-- acne like the rest of us have had. their kids aren't as perfect as we all assumed they'd be. and they, amazingly, aren't the style icons they were back in the day, either. there are people who weren't really my real-life friends twenty years ago who have become facebook friends through commonalities. the playing field is even now. i don't know why i love that, but i do. maybe being the dorkus of millbrook high school worked in my favor.

i love that there is a group of people who have reconnected on facebook....a group of people who found acceptance and peace and self-worth, and who learned to live on their own without mom and dad at a special place during the summers when they were in high school and college. there were deep friendships formed between people who had otherwise nothing in common with one another except that their parents all 'suggested' that they come to this place for the summer to work. perhaps every bad thing they ever did was learned at this place, but many, many good life lessons were learned there too. fifteen years later, there are close to a hundred of us who have found each other again on facebook. i love that. we are all okay, except for one or two who are in a better place.

i love that i can upload a picture directly from my cell phone to my facebook. idiot-proof.

i love that 'friend' is a verb widely recognized by people.

i love that my husband and i can fight through facebook and never speak of it in person. i love that we challenge each other to brainy games through facebook so that we can keep our healthy spirit of competition for bragging rights going.

i love that, as a person who typically detests the idea of IM, people pop in to my world at all times of the day and night (for facebook is my homepage now!) just to say hello.

i love that i can share my mood by posting something witty on my status. i had dozens of people looking for my (stupid) dog last week, and it touched me beyond words.

so i'm thinking that i love facebook just a little too much. it really shouldn't count as one's main hobby, but in the plue house it does.

so friend me. http://www.facebook.com/